“Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel”. As real as this may sound, this surely reminded us of some or the other thought which makes us uncomfortable. The conflict arises when we think we know the ‘positive’ but end up feeling the ‘negative’ within or vice versa.
We live in a world wherein people tend to overlook their basic emotional needs in order to do whatever it takes them to win, in spite of not being satisfied by it. It is of utmost importance to be guided by a sense of principle. We often fail to realise that life is not about being adjudged a ‘winner’ externally but it is about how we lead ourselves to it, is what really matters. People may appear to win external battles which will be temporary but it is only when we win an internal battle, do we win forever and truly.
Inner conflicts are similar to a tug of war between the brain, body and spirit. It is almost as if the mind wants to keep running old scripts while the spirit is eager to create new ones. Without awareness, our body is caught in the middle of this heated exchange. This separation is the one which feeds the struggle. Hence, it is quite important for one to break free from the cycle of separation. As one becomes more and more connected within oneself, there is no longer a need to be something different. Instead you are guided to love who you are and with that, comes the required internal and external shifts.
We tend to go wrong when we accept that feeling different or precisely, not in sync with our surrounding, only reflects that it’s us who may be wrong in feeling so. Instead we must know that, internal conflict is a necessity to nurture a human into a better, wiser and stronger being. Neglecting it won’t do us any good than actually deep diving into our thoughts and getting to the root of the chaos. Most of the times, we are required to do RCA- Root Cause Analysis for a complex problem, similarly, we must dive into the corners of our mind and not just go on with the botheration. Constant introspection is the key to have a better life, as believably so, answers lie in the problem itself.
Landing a high paying job or bagging an award for a contribution to a project would mean nothing, if, in the deep corners of our mind we are not in peace with it for any reason. Hence, it is absolutely not required to live with the storm that brews inside of us. As individuals living in a world where we are made to selectively feel ‘good vibes only’ we must know that literally every emotion matters. One cannot choose to not feel bad about something when it is actually driving them crazy within. While leading our lives, it’s of utmost importance to ensure we are genuinely living it for ourselves and this can happen only when we absorb all kinds of emotions instead of being choosy. The biggest problem happens when we don’t want to feel what we are being made to feel by the circumstances. It’s only a matter of time that we start embracing what we feel and become better.
Externalizing thoughts is always a good start to taking a breather. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength. People struggling to cope up with themselves feel lonely even in a room full of people, for that trying to strike a conversation about it with someone should be a good starting point. The more we try to clear our minds, the clearer we are able to see life ahead. It may be as little as just noting things down in a journal which cause the inner commotion or talking to someone, we just need to realise which way works for us. If we look around, we will find people who would really get our emotions and won’t second guess our feelings, instead will deal with the situation with genuine empathy. That is probably why, sometimes a talk therapy with the ‘right person’ is all we need.
Our thoughts have the ability to change our lives. To be decisive enough to act well, we must develop the ability to self-validate and self-soothe especially when the world around us is constantly bringing about new challenges. It’s important to keep telling oneself that irrespective of the result of our actions- we will survive. After all, life is nothing but about “survival of the fittest mind”, the more we explore about ourselves first, the more do we move towards positivity.
By – Shweta Sharma
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